By Eugenia Yong

The way a Kom person perceives death and how they celebrate it.

It is uncommon for a typical Kom person to say someone has died. Expressions like ‘gone home’, ‘finished, ‘come to an end’, etc are used. This is because they consider life and death as sacred and also consider death as a change of environment or a transformation of life.  The dead simply go to meet the ancestors.

Ancestral worship to a Kom man is of prime importance. This explains why as a rule the dead are buried in their homeland so that they are near their ancestors. The dead are buried around a family house and not just anywhere but as close to the wall of the house as possible. The grave is dug downwards and cut inwards at the bottom thereby placing the dead inside the house. This house is the family cemetery or house of graves as it is called. The more intimate the human relation is the more compelling the demand not to bury the deceased in foreign land. This tells us why anybody who dies out of Kom is taken back to Kom for burial. Through the good relations the way to the ancestors becomes open. The body is often treated with great respect. It is thoroughly washed, properly massaged with cam wood to make it soft and rubbed with castor oil. Often, when digging a grave and some ancestral remains are found and exhumed, they are washed and carefully rubbed with cam wood and castor oil as if the person has just passed on. An expensive shroud is used to wrap the bones and reburied.

Re: [AFOaKOM] Ghi Nafoin Do not marry in kom
by BOBE NFORMIE  NKFUM, Afoakom@Yahoogroups
Message #18062
Nkfum Nico <This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.>
Fri Feb 5, 2010 4:11 am
WOINAGHEM, I want to differ with you people on this issue of Ghe na Foin  not getting married. They do get married  the irony is that their marriages never last till God do them part but for Funkuin's and Ayehnda-kuole (Bobe Aboh) the Biological father of Fon Yuh the first.

Funkuin is the first wain na fon that was dowried to the bride (Bobe Aboh) she later on became a nafoin when Yuh her first offspring with Ayehnda-kuole became Fon. The dowry Ayehnda-kuole paid to the bridegroom's family was a leopard and buffalo caught by him in present Meli.The bridegroom's family was the Fon and his sister Nafoin at the time. Ayenda-kuole was a (waintoh) prince born in Fuli. How his father the Fon of Kom came about labeling him Ayeahnda-kuole is another long story.

Sub textual Interpretation of Gizzard Eating Elders in Kom Kingdom

Ok, there have been questions about who eats or does not eat chicken gizzard in a given situation within the Kom community at home or anywhere on the globe.

I was wondering if the actions of our ancestors could be seen/judged within the context in which they lived, survived and produced the kingdom (land and the people) that we have today.

Has it occurred to anyone that maybe (just maybe) it is out of LOVE that the elders made it a rule to have those parts to themselves? What do I mean out of "love"? Their actions (keeping the juicy parts of the chicken to themselves) seem selfish. Is the "give the gizzard to the elder rule" borne out of selfishness?

Now let's think about it.